Comments on: Holidays Schmolidays

By: kat

kat — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I feel your pain – seriously! Except instead of a six-hour drive, our families are separated by hemispheres and hours and hours of expensive travel. We’ve come to terms with it (to a certain degree) and it is the life we chose after all. I try and focus on the fact that we are our OWN family unit now and us being together is most important. I miss my family terribly but I’m the lucky one this year as we are going to Australia for the holidays. Maybe I should get pregnant too??!! Just kidding!

By: jes

jes — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

We know this problem…and YEP, there is no easy solution!

SOOOO…I’m going to comment on knitting instead! I am dying to learn how to knit socks, and I LOVE that yarn! The Christmas book looks like fun, I’ll check it out the next time I go to B&N.

I just posted a pic. of a tank I made….I googled the name of the book I was using, and was very surprised to find a PATTERN CORRECTIONS page for about 5 patterns in that book!! (THANK GOD not the tank, BUT a sweater I was thinking of knitting!) Can you imagine? I was wondering if maybe your yarn shortage was due to a misprint?? For now on, I’m googling the book title before I start a project!!

By: Chrissie

Chrissie — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I know how you feel! Our families are separated by about 4 1/2 hours, which makes it super hard to fit both in. Usually we do one actual holiday (Turkey Day and Christmas) at each families house, and then the weekend after or so at the others, rotating.

This year is more complicated for us, too, since we will be moving the weekend before Thanksgiving.
It is so hard choosing, and it make you feel like you are letting them down big time. I miss being a little kid sometimes, since you didn’t have to think about things like this

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I don’t know if this helps or not but Jason and have always done T-day with his family and Christmas with mine. I am glad however that you two will stay together for the holidays.

By: k8

k8 — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

We do the same as the other Kate – turkeyday with Tim’s half, Cmas with my half. Usually, Tim’s parents and assorted other family would fly out to us, but health problems are keeping them grounded. I decided I wasn’t up for flying all the way to CA for Thanksgiving, so we’ll split and I’ll stay here and watch the dogs, and we’ll hopefully get out to his family together for Easter or something. My sister’s coming to visit, though, so that’ll be fun.

By: wenders

wenders — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Clearly, you are not alone in this. Doesn’t make it easier, I know, but…

I am not even married but have divorced parents – and I try to switch Thanksgiving and Christmas so that I am seeing them both during the holidays but also not travelling like a crazy person. This came after one Christmas of 6 plane trips, 3 layovers, one lost suitcase and the realization that I was NOT having fun. I would really sit down and think about what you and Casey want…

By: biglug

biglug — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

This is how we ended up being responsible for Thanksgiving! I hated that we separated every Thanksgiving so now we host it. But it’s a little easier b/c his parents are together and so are mine, so they’re willing to all spend time together.

But anyway – I think that being married is great because it gives you some kind of feeling of justification when it comes to stuff like that. You are a family now, so you shouldn’t have to separate.

Hope it all works out!

By: Rossana

Rossana — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Golly, I don’t have any good suggestions. But I’m sure you will work something out. Sometimes the really grown-ups have to accept things like grown-ups. Good luck!

By: chris

chris — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Welcome to one of the few non-joys of married life! When Hub and I got married, we decided not to do the separate holidays thing anymore, too, and our holidays became much more complicated.

We tried doing T-giving at one place and Xmas at the other and alternating years, but his mom just didn’t get it (she thinks she should get every holiday). Then we tried to do it all, and got totally burned out. For a couple years we lived halfway across the country, and didn’t come home for the holidays and it was bliss. Then we moved back, and the chaos and stress came back.

If you haven’t done it yet, look into buying a house — that seems to have solved it for us this year. All of a sudden we have family volunteering us to host Thanksgiving AND Xmas Eve. I’m hoping that the hosting stress will be offset by not having to drive hundreds of miles in a 2-day stretch (without leaving the extended DFW metroplex)

By: jessica~

jessica~ — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Ugh, as if the holiday’s weren’t stressful enough.

Even though we’ve been married for two years, my husband and I spend Thanksgiving apart. Know what? It works fine for us. On Christmas we are together but not Thanksgiving. I’m not willing to give up my T-giving family traditions [we have a big party - about 20 friends and fam come for dinner]. Both of us are fine with it so we stick to it. Too bad your families are so far away!