My family is the type that likes to plan. Every time there is a family get-together, it requires a lot of thought and you must do it far in advance.
This year’s holiday planning is freaking stressing me out. It is not even Halloween.
I know, I know! Everybody has stressful holidays. (Who said that you have to love your family, not to like them? haha)
In my case, the problem is not that we don’t want to be with people. Actually, we want to be in three places at the same time.
Casey’s holiday situation is already complicated because he has divorced parents and it is difficult to keep them both content as it is… Everything has to be even or else someone feels hurt. Also, one of his sisters started college this year (out of New Hampshire!!! Go Haley!) so he feels that it is important to be there so that he can spend time with her during the holidays.
Then on my side, my family lost Aunt Beth last March, with whom we usually spend every holiday… which will make this year’s celebrations a bit difficult for everyone, especially my father, since it is the first season since she passed.
Also, my family is very small- it is just my mom, dad, brother and me. So if someone is not there, it wouldn’t really feel like a holiday… it would just be a sad little affair.
If our families were actually within driving distance, we could somehow do it all (although be very exhausted at the end of it). Unfortunately, my family is in New Jersey and Casey’s in New Hampshire- about a 6 hour drive each way. If we had a lot of money, we could fly back and forth but that doesn’t seem feasible either.
Every other year (we have been together for almost 8 years), we have separated for the holidays, both Thanksgiving and Christmas… feeling like we would rather miss each other than make people mad. That is not really an option this year- we are married now and want to be together and share the holidays with our families.
I am not really looking for a solution… I know what we need to do. Choose for this year and then do the opposite next year. We cannot make everyone happy all the time, I know that.
It just sucks. I hate disappointing the people we love. Ack, how am I going to respond to the emails asking us what we are doing?
Maybe I should just get pregnant and we can stay where we are and everyone will just come to us. Just kidding!! Christopher!